Not every guy who wants to date a married woman is single. We get that. Hell, two of us guys are married.
If you want to know how to date as a married man, look no further. We have everything you need to know about keeping it under wraps, whether this is your first affair or your ninth.
We’re here to show you how to do it right.
There are really only a few things you need to know about keeping your affair a secret, and they’re all pretty simple. What you need to think about, first and foremost, is HOW someone would catch you.
In all our time on married dating sites, we’ve learned a few things about how to have an affair. One of the biggest things we’ve learned is that there are basically two ways wives (and husbands) catch on:
1. Changes in spouse behavior.
This is the big one. There are some people that don’t even know how obvious they are about having an affair, but we guarantee that changing your behavior is one of the worst things you can do.
Yes, that includes changing your behavior for the better.
We’ve done countless hours of research on cheating, and one of the biggest things that stood out to us is the women’s comments on forums for spouses who had been cheated on.
MANY of them said things like, “I knew something was wrong when he started buying me flowers out of nowhere,” or “He’d never done the laundry, and suddenly he was volunteering for all kinds of chores. I was SURE something was up.”
We’re assuming that you didn’t just marry your wife because there were no better options in life. Sorry if that IS the case, but if not, give her a little credit. Women aren’t stupid, and suddenly getting what they want after a long time of fighting about it is going to tip them off that something is different.
The same thing goes for your personal hygiene. If you really think your hygiene isn’t good enough for a dating scene, start introducing changes gradually. You don’t want to be the guy who suddenly starts manscaping out of nowhere. Yes, your wife will DEFINITELY pick up on that.
The biggest thing you can do to keep your affair a secret is play it cool and not change your routine. If you can do that, you can keep from tipping any red flags in her system.
2. Leaving a money trail.
Welcome to the great hell of living in the Information Age.
Yes, health care is available, most people have access to education, and there’s porn available everywhere in the continental U.S., but the downside is that EVERYTHING you do online can be tracked.
That includes money.
Dating is expensive. If it’s been a while since you’ve dated, allow us to remind you. Yes, it might not be fair, but dating is more expensive for men, because women expect us to pay for stuff (and most of the time, we don’t mind).
That can be a big problem when you’re expecting to keep your affair a secret, and suddenly there are credit card purchases showing up at FlowersByJeanne and SecretLoveNest10284.
Yeah, we’re pretty sure your wife is going to notice that.
Anything you buy online CAN be tracked, so make sure you’re untrackable. If you have a joint account with your wife, don’t use it to finance your affair. If you don’t have a separate account, GET ONE.
If you can’t get a separate account, use cash. Cash withdrawals from a joint account aren’t perfect, but they’re not as suspicious as buying a bunch of chocolates on Valentine’s Day that she never receives.
If you’re not secure in your affair, you can’t enjoy your affair. We’re here to help you through the rough patches so you can focus on the great things in life-like the sexy married lady you’re dating.
We want you to be able to have fun with your affair and not worry constantly that someone else is going to find out. If you’re a single guy dating a married lady, make sure you pay for things instead of letting her use a credit card. Remember, she can be tracked as easily as you can-and jealous husbands are dangerous both to the wife and to the lover.
Keep things discreet and coy, and you’ll both have a better time.