A lot of guys ruin their own affairs for one very simple reason: they spend too much time overthinking.
Married dating and affairs don’t have to be complicated. This can be the simplest, most exciting, most fun part of your life, at least for a while. You can always get a new one if it’s not living up to standards, and you’re never worried about how long it’s going to last.
Unfortunately, many guys seem to think that having an extramarital affair is some giant be-all, end-all of life. These guys ruin it for the rest of us, and ruin it for themselves by being caught really easily when it SHOULDN’T be that easy to find out the truth.
Here are some of the biggest mistakes guys make with overcomplicating things with their affairs:
Don’t try to juggle too much.
Work and a married life AND a mistress seems like a lot to handle. Some guys can’t handle all the pressure, which is understandable. However, these guys should really choose just a little bit to focus on, and really make that their star material.
Keep your life as simple as you can. It’ll naturally get more complicated, but you don’t have to help it along.
One way you can make sure you’re not over-complicating things is to look at your alibi. This might be a surprise to you, but having an account of your every move might actually be doing you more harm than good.
You don’t need an in-depth alibi.
The more complicated your alibi is, the more likely it is that you’ll mess up on some of the smaller details. Pick an alibi that can back you up, but won’t trip you up on being incredibly hard to remember.
With this piece of advice, it’s very important to know your wife REALLY well. She’s going to be the one who decides how many questions to ask and whether she believes you in the end or not.
Is your wife nosy? Is she pretty chill? Does she like worrying at pieces of information like a dog with a bone?
It depends on what kind of person your wife is, but sometimes you’ll be more likely to pull off a simple alibi than a complicated one.
That is kind of a blanket statement. Look at the conversation below and see if it describes you and your wife:
You: Hey, honey.
Wife: You’re home late.
You: Out with the boys.
Wife: Which boys? The ones from work, or the ones from school?
Wife: Where did you go? Did you eat out? Were you drinking? Which ones were you really hanging out with?
If your wife is like this, then first of all, we don’t blame you for wanting to get some on the side.
Unfortunately, this is the hardest kind of lie to pull off. This is a woman that might see through a lot of your ruse just because she’s asking so many questions. This can poke a hole right into your story without your wife even trying very hard to do that!
This is an affair. Don’t pretend like it’s more.
The biggest thing you need to do is make sure that this stays as an affair. You don’t want to let either of you get incredibly attached to the other. That way lies divorce, anger, resentment, betrayal, and worse, alimony.
Keep things light and fun. If you’re not having a good time with your married babe, get out of that relationship. You have a relationship that’s harder to end, so don’t act like this is your second marriage.
Don’t spend too much time with one girl.
Feel free to spread your time among a bunch of different girls. You don’t owe them anything, and you’re just hanging out for as long as you both want to in order to feel good. If more dates help you feel awesome, then find more girls tonight.
NEVER say “I love you.”
This one should be obvious, but we’ll go out on a limb and say it anyway: saying those three little words is a VERY BAD IDEA. It sets both of you up for failure, whether she returns those sentiments or not. If so, you’re trapped in ANOTHER relationship. If not, you made an ass out of yourself.