If you’re in the middle of an affair with a married woman, you’re going to have to deal with the holidays at some point or another. This isn’t just a matter of dealing with the guilt that comes along with the holidays. It goes much deeper than that, and can be a very big problem if you don’t handle it carefully. This can be an emotional time for everyone, especially for your lovely lady. If you want your relationship to survive the holidays, no matter which holiday it is, there are some things you need to take to heart.
“She wants to spend some quality time with her family – Let her do that”
Your woman will probably have plans with her family. Realize that right now, and make sure you’ve internalized it. Whether you’re a single guy who just likes dating married women or whether you’re also having a family plan, you ARE in a relationship with someone married, and that original family has to come first. After all, if you wanted to be her one and only, she wouldn’t be married to someone else. Make sure you’re not demanding that she take time away from her family to be with you. That’s immature, and it’s going to make her not want to be with you ever again.
Make it Special
“Throw a surprise birthday party for your girlfriend”
Just because you’ve both got other commitments doesn’t mean you should ignore the holidays, either. Make sure you give her a little gift if it’s a gift-giving holiday like her birthday or Christmas, and make sure you do something to celebrate the occasion no matter when it is. If you can’t see her for the entire week of Christmas, take her to the last sprig of mistletoe still standing when she has some time away. You’ll be a really romantic guy, and you didn’t muscle your way in to something that is better off without you.
Take A Hint
The holidays are a really stressful time. If your woman is also dealing with the stress of being involved in an affair, you don’t want to make things worse. If she says she needs some space during this time, give her space. If she calls you and hints that she wants you to come over, don’t be a slacker! It’s most important that you pay attention to what she wants, rather than what’s going to be the most important for your personal pleasure at this exact moment.
The holidays can be a great time for bringing people together. If you handle it right, it can be a great way for you to have some special, important moments with your mistress, whether you’re actually together on the holidays or whether you have to wait until they’re over. If you handle it poorly, you can be shooting your own future in the foot. If you handle it well, that’s some fantastic memories you’ve made, and you’ve secured a place in her heart as a guy who knows how to take on difficult situations with style and grace. Believe us, you want to be the second guy.