It’s kind of a dreaded thing for a lot of guys if they are dating a married woman. If she has kids, you don’t want to touch them with a ten foot pole. It’s not healthy for them and honestly, kids can’t keep secrets, nor do they understand why they should. If you’re smart, you’ll stay away from the kids of the married woman that you’re dating, because getting involved in her family life isn’t what online married dating is all about. It’s about your relationship, and there isn’t any need for you to stick your nose in the direction of her kids!
Don’t Go to Her House
Seriously, just don’t. She’s married and you’re the one that’s single and dating her, and so it doesn’t make any sense for you to be anywhere near her place. If she invites you over, make sure that you know the kids won’t be over there at all before you agree. Tell her that it has nothing to do with you not liking them, you just don’t want them to find out or get involved. If she isn’t an idiot, she’ll understand. If she doesn’t seem to get it or doesn’t care, then maybe you’re dating the wrong lady. Even if the two of you are having an affair, she still needs to think about what that could do to her kids if they find out!
Don’t Go to Their Events
Kids have a lot going on these days. It doesn’t matter if there’s a perfect opportunity for you to see your girlfriend at her kid’s violin recital, don’t go to it. There’s no reason for you to be involved in their lives and expose them to the situation of their mother cheating on their father. If you know what’s good for you, you’ll wait for the recital to be over and meet her at dinner afterwards. It’s a lot safer that way, and there will be a lot less questions to be asked and answered later on.
This also goes for their sporting events and their school events. Just stay away, dude. They don’t know who you are and they don’t need to know that you’re mommy’s friend!
Don’t Pick Them Up For Her
It doesn’t matter how she begs and pleads. Don’t pick them up from school practices and don’t take them home for her. It’s just going to raise a lot of questions for the kids, for her husband, and in general. The less that her family sees of you, the better; it’s going to make it a lot easier to hide the relationship that the two of you have, and that’s smart. Remember, the less people that know about you two, the better and more safe that your relationship will stay.
There are a lot of other ways to avoid her kids, but just remember: the more out of sight you are from them, the better. You don’t want them to get attached to you at all, because that’s just asking for trouble!